We lost a dear friend this weekend. Bobby Blanchard, co-founder of Blanchard Schaefer Advertising & Public Relations was killed in a small plane accident in Oklahoma on Saturday afternoon.
Bobby’s zeal for life will be greatly missed among all of our family and friends.
Please share your thoughts here as we celebrate Bobby’s life.
March 19, 2007 at 4:29 pm
Bobby was such a vibrant personality, the world will seem a little more empty without his energy in it. I’ll never forget the first time I met him – tired from laughing and from keeping up with his pace.
Our thoughts and prayers are with his family and friends.
March 19, 2007 at 5:06 pm
All,
I am so sorry for your loss of a such a good friend and partner. All of you, along with Bobby’s family, will be in my prayers.
March 19, 2007 at 5:56 pm
You will always be in my heart and in my memories.
Gonna miss ya peaches….until we meet again.
March 19, 2007 at 6:58 pm
My earliest memories of Bobby involve really long hair (yes, he used to have some) and really ugly, zebra-striped parachute pants (it was the 80’s, after all). He was my friend for more years than he was my boss. He always had an exercise or dietary supplement to recommend; a book to read; or a really great bottle of red wine to discuss. And of course, he loved a good pair of Kenneth Cole shoes.
Bobby was a good son, father, husband and an amazing friend.
We love you, Bobby. “Work hard. Play hard. Never look back.”
Lynne & Tim
March 19, 2007 at 7:01 pm
I love, love, love Bobby….he was so great. The sweetest, most fun, and adventurous person ever! We talked and talked about traveling, martial arts, restaurants, OU football, along with whatever we were dreaming of doing at the time. In my interview with him for the agency, I think we talked about martial arts the entire time. My heart and prayers go out to Jan, Maris, and Zane — along with Ken, Lynaia, Lynne, Gary, David, Kim, Heather B., and all the other Blanchard Schaefer folks. It was a great place to work and be — Bobby always gave his work and people all of his energy and passion. He was a great friend to me and so many others… I will miss him very much.
March 19, 2007 at 7:14 pm
A day never went by where Bobby wasn’t excited to talk about about something great he had experienced, some exotic place he had visited, or some interesting person he had met. He had an amazing way of connecting with people and a zest for life that brought joy to those around him.
I will miss him punching me in the arm every time we passed each other in the hallway because “I never had an older brother to pick on me.”
But most of all, I will miss our talks…
March 19, 2007 at 7:27 pm
I am the father of the pilot of the airplane in which Bobby was riding. Mike is on a road to recovery we hope. He has some burns and a bruised pancreas which required surgery. He is despondent over Bobby. We have activated prayer chains in Texas, Arkansas, California, Oregon, and Ohio through friends at different church groups. We have asked in each case to pray for Bobby’s family. We know it is a terrible terrible loss and we are in shock over Mike and know Jan, Zane, and Maris are suffering much more than us. Our hearts go out to them.
Bobby certainly was admired by many people including Mike. His being elected as President of EO shows other people admired him. We shall pray that the family receives comfort from God.
March 19, 2007 at 7:43 pm
I am very sorry to hear about your loss.
March 19, 2007 at 7:48 pm
Bobby was a social nut. He was a lad who lunched, gabbed, and could quote movie lines — from ‘The Jerk’ to ‘Drop Dead Gorgeous’ — with the best of ‘em. He had an energy that was infectious, a sense of humor that was second to none, and a relationship with his kids that was enviably close and undeniably special. Bobby was “the most smartest” — a man among men. He leaves a void that cannot be filled, but also a legacy for us to honor and emulate.
God be with you, Mr. B! The world is not the same with you…
March 19, 2007 at 8:07 pm
I give thanks for the life of Bobby Blanchard. We are each unique by God’s design and Bobby reveled in his uniqueness. I count my 5 plus years with Blanchard Design/Blanchard Group/Blanchard Schaefer as some of the best years of my life. Bobby’s enthusiasm for and unique way of looking at life brought vibrancy to the agency and the lives he touched.
To all his family, especially Jan, Zane and Maris please know that my heart is with your hearts at this time and that the Spirit of God is interceding for you with sighs too deep for words.
March 19, 2007 at 3:37 pm
Bobby was definately a contributor to this world, and gave far more than he took. I had the opportunity to know Bobby for over 14 years, and during that time our relationship drifted from client / vendor to true friendship.
When Bobby asked “how are you” he truly meant it, always had time for your response…..and truly listened. Often he would comment, “I read an article about….that reminded me of you”.
I’ll miss our talks about kids growing up, the oil fields, martial arts, motorcycles and so on….
Thanks for leaving this world in a better place.
March 19, 2007 at 4:05 pm
Bobby never got tired of hearing me pronounce my last name, or the town where I was born, Monterrey. He had such a passion for culture, music, people, food, wine, art, and just about everything else in life…and he always made time for his friends and family. He was the first one to offer help when I moved to mexico, he helped me get a job there, and he even called to wish me good luck on the day of my interview. He had such a big heart. I don’t think I’ll ever meet anyone quite like Bobby, and I feel so blessed to have been a part of his life. -Z-
March 19, 2007 at 4:07 pm
It’s hard to know exactly where to begin. Bobby was a great man; a beacon of positive energy without a negative thing to say. I feel very fortunate to have been able to know him and call him a friend. It was an honor to serve beside him on the EO board. He made our organization better and he made the people around him better. I am so glad that my final memories of Bobby include good food, good wine and great conversation in celebration of his birthday…not to mention our plot for a prank that involved Bobby in a clown costume at our upcoming EO Global Leadership Conference in San Francisco. It won’t be the same without him there, but then again, nothing will. My heart goes out to Jan, Zane, Maris and the multitude of family and friends that share in the grief of this loss. May God bring comfort to us all in this time of trial. God bless!
March 19, 2007 at 4:13 pm
My thoughts and prayers are with your family and friends.
March 19, 2007 at 4:55 pm
I, as many others have written, very much enjoyed Bobby’s conversation. I only worked for BSA for a short time, but he definitely created an example of travel and personal friendships that all could emulate. He took the time to get to know people and to find a common interest.
God bless the Blanchard family.
March 19, 2007 at 5:19 pm
I didn’t get to know Bobby the way I would’ve wanted to, but I do remember his energy and passion. My prayers are with his family.
March 19, 2007 at 5:19 pm
The Bobby smile – it is ingrained with me forever. I knew anytime that Bobby was around, we would have a great time. Any room that he was in was immediately vibrant and full of life. I’ll never forget how he turned the All Texas EO Event into a success with his great presence and wit, and how much passion he put towards making EO a fun and vibrant organization. He personally sent out birthday cards to all the members (no matter if he sent it on January 10th for an October 1st birthday – which we had a great laugh about), and cared deeply about everyone. If I live a life half as passionately and successfully as Bobby, I will be fortunate. He was a great man. Sharon and my thoughts go out to Jan, Zane and Maris, and we will always be there for you.
March 19, 2007 at 5:22 pm
Such a wonderful guy, Bobby Blanchard. I counted him as my boss, a friend and a business mentor. Bobby loved to tell stories, loved hearing them, loved to laugh and sincerely cared for all those around him. And he was very much cared for in return. I miss you Bobby Blanchard. God Bless.
March 19, 2007 at 5:42 pm
Through my wife, Julie, and her friendship with Bobby, I had the honor in getting to know, admire, respect and love him and his zest for life. For that, I am greatly honored to have been a part of his life. His energy and humor was second to none.
I too, had the great fortune to spend the evening celebrating his 50th birthday, and recall the sidesplitting stories and scenarios that were being generated over clowns and GLC! The folks in SF have no idea what they are missing.
To those few in the world that never had the pleasure of sharing Bobby’s company, and seeing the energy and laughter that he left in his wake, I feel sad for you that the opportunity will never come your way.
Jan, Zane & Maris…words simply cannot even come close to describing the sadness and sympathy that we feel for you. As you can see by all the comments, Bobby was an awesome father/husband/person. But just know that we are here for you, and always will be.
“A little song, a little dance, a little seltzer down your pants.”
Chuckles The Clown
March 19, 2007 at 5:45 pm
Bobby always had a smile on his face and nice things to say about others. His energy was great and big and positive! He was an inspiration to me and many others. My prayers go out to his family. God be with you!
March 19, 2007 at 6:10 pm
What can you really say about a man who could quote “This is Spinal Tap” and “Drop Dead Gorgeous”, recommend the best place to meditate in Switzerland and explain the proper way to clean and press? Bobby was my friend, mentor, inspiration, and comedian. He and I bonded immediately – we both have the same non-PC sense of humor, and had hours of fun laughing ourselves silly. At the same time, Bobby could be the most serious person on earth, and would always take time out of his schedule to listen and counsel.
I was reflecting recently on his devoted love for his family. If ever I have children, I hope I can bond with them and express my love for them the way Bobby did for Zane and Maris. I never heard a negative word about them, unless it was to say that he couldn’t spend as much time with them as he would like.
Bobby lived life to the fullest, and defintely “went to 11″. I tip my gin for you, Boo.
March 19, 2007 at 6:21 pm
I dont think the magnitude of losing Bobby hit me till I saw his picture. And that brought it all to the present what it means that Bobby Blanchard wont be around to joke, laugh, provoke and enjoy.
There are so many cliches that apply and I cant use them for a man who was truly one of a kind. Even though I didnt spend tons of time with Bobby, I’ll miss him. Miss him more than I would have imagined. I think the world is better for him having been here and poorer for him not being around.
Jan, anything I can do, you know that Becca and I are here to help.
March 19, 2007 at 6:22 pm
Bobby, you are a great man — you will never be forgotten and I thank you for touching mine and so many others lives in such awesome ways!
The old saying goes that you are either a “giver” or a “taker” in this world .. well for Bobby, they got the saying wrong .. because Bobby Blanchard was both! He “gave” only goodness and “took” all of our sadness and turned it into a laugh or a hug or a guy in a clown in suit!
My heart hurts for Jan, Zane, Maris and the rest of the Blanchard Family – mine and the entire EO Family’s condolences go out to you!! We loved Bobby in ways too long to do justice to here, but we also know that it pales in comparison to how you all loved him. Your husband, Dad, son and brother was truly a GREAT person who made an unbelievable difference in this world — but most of all he loved and was proud of you. Never ever forget that, because he wouldn’t want you to and I know it because he and I talked about it 3 weeks ago when I was with him at the EO President’s Summit.
Mark Twain wrote — “Not all horses are born equal. Some were born to win.” Well Bobby, you were born a winner of the human race!! And not only were you a winner, but you did so many of us the honor of sharing that winning touch so that we too could be winners. You, my friend, will be missed in so many ways, but will live brightly and forever in all of our hearts and memories. From the depths of my soul .. Thank you.
March 19, 2007 at 6:30 pm
Dearest Jan, Zane and Maris:
It is with a heavy heart and with much sadness that I am writing this brief note. Bobby was not only a true friend and a unique person he also brought so much fun and joy to everyone he met.
I always looked forward to our meetings and will remember the little things about him that made him so special. From sharing a room with him at the EO GLC in Washington last year(“what happens in DC stays in DC”), to listening to all his wonderful plans for EO and supporting all of them, to hearing him lovingly describe each of you and how much you meant to him and the great pride he felt in you both, Zane and Maris, and the love and friendship he had with you Jan: all of this he did in his easy and humorous way which made you feel a special part of his life.
I know that the coming days and weeks and months are going to be difficult and if there is anything we can do to help you please let us know. You are all in our prayers and thoughts.
The Bobby I know will be watching us with a smile on his wonderful face and wishing us to celebrate his life with joy and thanks and a sense of ribald humor. So, I am going to do just that, if I can, and remember a great man who always went out of his way to help others and who always, always, treated life as an experience to relish and a great game to play with.
I count myself lucky, privaledged, and blessed to have known your Bobby, and I will miss him very much.
My warmest wishes and heartfelt condolences go out to you and your family and Maria and Sofia do the same.
Sean and Maria and Sofia
March 19, 2007 at 7:12 pm
I am thankful for the time I spent with Bobby while I worked at BS. He had an energy and enthusiasm for life that truly inspired others. He always had a quick wit and he will truly be missed.
Jan, Maris & Zane, please know that many, many people are praying for you all during this tragic time. There are no words that can express how sorry I am for your loss. Bobby touched so many people and truly made an impact during his life.
March 19, 2007 at 7:58 pm
I love Bobby like a brother. He was loving and kind, and always there with a smile or a deep thought.
Bobby was either the youngest old guy, or the oldest young guy on the planet. And in keeping with contradiction, he was a peaceful warrior. Not many people mix poetry with martial arts as well as he did.
Oh man, Bobby loved living – and he did it well. I’ll mourn his loss – but not as much as I’ll celebrate his life.
March 19, 2007 at 8:10 pm
I met Bobby Blanchard first through the eyes of Lynne Swihart, who told me about his vision, humanity, and value system. I took a graduate corporate communication class from UT Arlington to Blanchard Schaefer to meet with Bobby to hear his ideas on corporate culture. He talked from his heart about his core values, his company, his clients, and most important, his family. The lessons he shared about living a life of purpose, and being the same person in one’s career as at home, and finding meaning first and integrating it into all, have stayed with me. Bobby’s life is a treasure, and my heart goes out to his family. My family will be praying for all who loved him.
March 19, 2007 at 8:14 pm
My prayers are with you and your family. This is such a terrible loss and we are in shock over this tragedy.
Bobby was such a special man. Looking at his photo makes me so sad and happy at the same time. Sad he is no longer with us. Sad for his family. Happy becuase his smile just makes one smile. It always has…it always will. And happy that he is resting in peace as we will all one day be with him again.
God be with you,
Lisa-Adelle, David and Isabella
March 19, 2007 at 8:41 pm
I don’t think I have ever seen Bobby without a smile on his face. Not just on his face, but in his eyes, and in his heart, and it always brightened whatever room he was in. His energy and spirit touched so many lives, including mine. I only wish I had had more opportunities to spend with him. He will be missed by so many, that is clear.
Jan, Zane, Maris – no one can know the hurt you are feeling. But hopefully knowing how much so many others loved and appreciated your husband and father can bring you some peace and positive energy in the challenging times ahead. Please let us know if there is anything you need. John and I are here for you.
March 19, 2007 at 10:19 pm
If I had more time to get to know Mr. Blanchard I am sure I would have loved him as much as all the rest of his loved ones. If Mr. Blanchard was hlaf as great as the daughter and son he raised, he must have been an amazing person. To all who knew him, I know he was a great Father, Husband, and overall friend to everyone and his spirit will live on in all of our hearts and memories. You all are in my families prayers.
March 19, 2007 at 10:47 pm
Bobby was one of the main reasons I joined EO. His energy and enthusiasm combined with his sincerety was rare and greatly appreciated by many. He will be sorely missed. God bless.
March 20, 2007 at 12:23 am
I am so thankful for the three years were were friends and acquaintances at OU. ‘New’ Cate or OU would not have been the same without you. We had some great parties, good times and made some special memories. My condolences to Jan, Rick, your kids and family. You will be greatly missed. God Bless and comfort your family.
March 20, 2007 at 5:08 am
I am so sad about Bobby. I spent a year on the board of WEO with Bobby, and before that owned a sometimes “rival” advertising firm where we would occasionally compete for business and/or help each other with industry questions. Bobby had a beautiful and compassionate spirit about him. He had a gift for seeing the good in people and situations, and I always sensed how grateful he was for the gifts he had. I saw him a few weeks ago during lunch in the West Village, and we talked about needing to get together to catch up. I will miss having that chance. Rest in peace, Bobby.
Blessings and love to his family and friends.
March 20, 2007 at 8:25 am
I am so sorry to hear about Bobby. I knew him years ago at OU and have never met a nicer person. He was such a delight to be around and made everyone feel wonderful. What a surprise 10 years after I met Bobby when I walked into an office at Halliburton for an interview and who was inteviewing me but Bobby’s dad, Hawkeye. He had a picture of his children on his desk and when I saw it, I knew that if Hawkeye had raised Bobby that he must be a great man. And he was!!! The last time I saw Bobby was at Hawkeye’s retirement party, but it was a pleasure to see him and visit. He was a great person and will be missed by all who knew him. Jan, kids, Rick and family you will all be in my thoughts and prayers.
March 20, 2007 at 9:02 am
“I believe that imagination is stronger than knowledge,
That myth is more potent than history,
That dreams are more powerful than facts,
That hope always triumphs over experience,
That laughter is the only cure for grief,
And I believe that love is stronger than death.”
-Robert Fulgham
March 20, 2007 at 9:28 am
I wanted to make Ken laugh, so I sent an email.
Ken’s the only man who ever slept with Bobby, saw him in his underwear – and they weren’t gay. Time’s were tough and money did not seem to be available, so they bunked up.
Bobby drove out to see where I lived before I left the agency. He came to my Dad’s funeral. He was and will always be THE man.
You just cannot beat that smile.
Jan, I think you are wonderful. So, so smart. I wish we’d met years ago.
I miss my agency family. You were good to and for me.
Aline
March 20, 2007 at 10:24 am
Bobby Blanchard was just a wonderful person, and this news is jarring to say the least. While I never had the chance to get to know Bobby outside of the EO setting, and a brief experience at Keiretsu Angle Investor forum, it is so readily apparent what a passionate, driven, focused, charming individual he was. The video invitation Bobby and Rex made singing “Feliz Navidad” for the EO 2005 year end Annual Party is still a classic, and as a new member of EO at the time, I realized that this organization’s incredible strength was due in large part to the charisma and dedication of its leaders…..Bobby in particular. (I still have the link to the video if anyone wants to see it)
I was also greatly touched when I received a personalized birthday card from him. Bobby will be greatly missed, and I pass along my blessings to his family, friends, and the countless people whose lives he touched and brought happiness to.
March 20, 2007 at 10:37 am
Bobby always served as an inspiration to me whether we were talking business or family. The positive energy just seemed to flow from him and I always seemed to have an extra bounce in my step after visiting with him. Still an inspiration to me, Bobby is in my heart and Jan, Maris and Zane are in my prayers.
March 20, 2007 at 10:38 am
Back in late 2001 when the tragedy of 9-11 was fresh in everyone’s mind and hearts and we’d just went into Afghanistan, I remember getting a Thanksgiving card from BSA. It resembled one of those turkey’s you’d draw in grade school when you traced your hand to make the shape of the bird. In this case the middle feather (finger) was sticking up and the caption read Happy Thanksgiving Bin Laden!
After laughing my AO, I called Bobby and asked him how he could get away with stuff like that. I mean, I said to him, aren’t you concerned about offending some of your customers and potential customers? I will always remember his answer. Bobby told me that integrity was more important than earning a buck and always would be. If anyone was offended by that card, and some people were, they were not the sort of people he wanted as clients anyway, they wouldn’t fit with the firm.
That incident is exemplary of how I wll always remember Bobby. A man of integrity, someone who knew what his values were and was willing to stand up for them. Kudos to you, Bobby, wherever you are now. Your belief in being true to yourself made this a better world.
March 20, 2007 at 10:57 am
I got to know bobby through EO global’s events as well as a few dallas visits, and was also very impressed with his integrity and good humor and how fast a friend he could be. Bobby went out of his way when I was in town to ensure that his fellow EOers had a great time and many laughs. I know several EOers in DC are mourning Bobby’s passing as well.
I believe that if he rests as well as he lived, it will be in peace. My prayers go out to his family as well as to those that were there in the accident.
March 20, 2007 at 11:04 am
I only met Bobby a couple of times, but he was very friendly and warm right off the bat. I liked that. I know there’s a hole the size of Mt.
Everest where he stood for those who saw him and loved him daily and words can’t express what Jan and their children and extended family feel. My prayers are for you and your children, Jan, and I know God is beside you.
truitt
March 20, 2007 at 11:31 am
If the goal in life is to live every minute like you mean it…Bobby achieved that. Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with your family, and that we are honored by Bobby’s spirit.
March 20, 2007 at 11:53 am
I really just got to know Bobby at the EO President’s Conference in Las Vegas several weeks ago. Over the 3 days we became fast friends and besides him being a tack sharp business person, he had a great sense of humor and was just a really fun person to be around- very good energy.
I feel very fortunate to have shared in his life. Love & support to Bobby’s Family, Friends, and the Dallas EO Chapter.
Mark Schmid
President, EO San Diego
March 20, 2007 at 12:18 pm
Genuine is what comes to my mind when I think of ‘B’ : Bobby Blanchard. He gives the best hugs. His eyes light up when he is excited to hear about YOUR day. He listens to you when you need him to. He is concerned about how you are. He gives when he can with a happy heart. He helped support me financially on my missions trip. How I wish that I could have give him a hug and thanks in person, but I guess that will just have to wait until I get to Heaven. I know that the Lord’s plan is always good and I pray and hope that you are kickin’ it up there. Save a spot and a hug for me. My thoughts and prayers for the Blanchard family.
v
March 20, 2007 at 12:40 pm
As President of EO Edmonton, I had the great pleasure of meeting Bobby at GLC in Washington D.C.
Although I did not know him well, there was a connection and I am sad to hear of his passing. My thoughts go out to his wife and children and please know that EO Edmonton is thinking of you.
Blair Assaly
President EO Edmonton
March 20, 2007 at 1:58 pm
I met Bobby at OU some 31 yrs ago and there was an instant friendship formed. We were dorm buddies, next door neighbors, and best friends throughout all the trials, tribulations, and good times that college years provide. After college, Bobby was my best man when I got married, and we had stayed in contact over the years until just recently. Even though we hadn’t communicated via Christmas cards, e-mails, and such over the past couple of years, Bobby was always a part of me, and will be going forward. His sense of humor, zest for life, and love of all humankind has touched so many. He will be greatly missed, but the memories will endure forever.
Our thoughts and prayers are with Jan, Maris, Zane, Bobby’s parents and siblings.
March 20, 2007 at 2:13 pm
Wow. Bobby Blanchard was important to me and so many other people. He built platforms that people could spring from. He was easy to learn from and was such good company too. He was smart and thoughtful of any idea shared with him. And he was open to looking at things from many different perspectives. No bad ideas or questions. He was a mentor, a role model, a motivator, a problem-solver and a great friend who’ll be remembered.
March 20, 2007 at 2:15 pm
I didn’t know Bobby personally. I work for his father-in-law, Calvin Cozort. I have, through the years heard different praise reports regarding Bobby from Calvin. He would talk about Bobby’s coffee preferences, about some of the little things that Bobby liked, how he was so good with his children. But wandering around this website dedicated to him I got to peek in at the kind of person Bobby was. What a truly amazing man you had the pleasure of knowing. My heart is with his family.
March 20, 2007 at 2:15 pm
I first met Bobby in Santa Fe at the first WEO Conference. A fireplug with a heart of gold, a big smile and very stylish glasses. I am from Boston and I mentioned since I had never been to the Southwest I needed to break free from the hotel food we were having and have something authentic. He told me to meet him in the parking lot the next day at a certain time. We searched all over Santa Fe for a particular strip mall where BB swore up and down he had found an excellent Tex-Mex place. Sure enough we dined in style at that strip mall and a friendship was formed.
During my tenure as President of EO I could always call on BB and receive his counsel on every item the international board had on its plate. He was so down to earth and had a special way of sorting through all the BS and simplifying things. I will certainly miss his slap on the back and “hug” at every EO University going forward. Zane and Maris I must tell you that I met your Dad at a number of EO events. After discussing the state of our businesses, the state of EO and the state of the world your Dad always talked about you two. He was proud of you and proud to be your Dad. It was in the wee small hours of the morning when I talked to your Dad about the two of you I saw his true heart.
From the entire Skelly family our deepest sympathy and our prayers are with the entire Blanchard family in this most difficult time.
Tom, Kathy, Cara, Monica and Liam Skelly
March 20, 2007 at 2:31 pm
I am on the board of EO in Houston. Bobby was so full of life and such an amazing force in EO. This is such a hole in so many people’s lives. My heart goes out to his children, his wife, his family and the many friends who will always miss him terribly. He was example to all of us about living life to its fullest with no regrets! He packed so much into his 50 short years! I am praying for God’s peace and comfort for all of you.
March 20, 2007 at 2:51 pm
Zane and Maris, Lamar High School has you and your family in our thoughts and prayers. God bless you.
March 20, 2007 at 3:18 pm
MY BIG TEDDY BEAR.
I don’t even know where to start. Loving..Caring..Understanding..Compassionate..Funny..Passionate..Unconditional..Strong..these are just a few words that describe Bobby. I have grown up with Bobby and Jan. Bobby was a BEST FRIEND to me. We talked about everything. We have laughed a great deal, cried, argued and loved each other very much. My heart truly hurts because he is a person that added value. He taught me so much and believed in me. He always encouraged me to do better and better. I owe a lot to him and I am FOREVER grateful. He took me under his wing for over 14 years (many of you know me…that took lots of patience). Bobby and Jan were the family I didn’t have and I loved them for that. The latest with Bobby was at my baby shower (yes..he was the only man there). He had just stopped by to bring me a present but came in during one of the games where each person had to stuff a balloon in their shirt (pretending they are pregnant too) and try to tie their shoes. We all made him do it and he looked hilarious!!! I love him for that. Bobby was always willing to try something. That happened just a few weeks ago. Good times! I am grateful to God that he was in my life. He is one of a kind. I love you Bobby Blanchard. You will always be with us all. Jan, Maris and Zane…I pray that God gives you peace of mind. He loved you all so very much.
March 20, 2007 at 3:40 pm
Dear Maris, Zane, and Mrs.Blanchard;
I know I haven’t been around your house in a while, but I just wanted to let you all know how much my family and i all love and care for you. I KNOW that you all will all over come this. You all are such strong people. You should know that you will always have people around you supporting you and loving you. Mrs.Blanchard you are one of the strongest women i know, i know for a fact that this will all be ok. He is in such a wonderful place now. He will be looking down on all of you and helping you through your lives. Mr.Blanchard was such an amazing man and im proud to say that i knew him. Maybe not to well but from the times that i did know him, he was such and amazing and wonderful person. Maris reminded me last night about how he always brought us lunch at sherrod and we would all eat outside, I thought he was like the coolest dad ever, because I know my dad would never do that for me. He seemed to be such a great guy that really loved his family. I love you all and im always here for you.
Love,
Paige
March 20, 2007 at 3:45 pm
Bobby welcomed me into EO on my first visit. Coming into a vibrant, mature organization was a process made smoother by Bobby’s enthusiasm and warm-hearted, sincere welcome. I could always count on his friendly, relaxed smile. My thoughts and prayers go out to his wife and children whom he mentioned several times in our limited conversations (and I know he loved and cherished). Peace be with you Bobby. . . .
March 20, 2007 at 4:18 pm
When one person hears another’s name mentioned, it subconsciously triggers a number of instant thoughts – some negative and some positive. Thinking over the many years we were friends and of the times I remember hearing his name mentioned, I never recall anyone, anyone, offering a negative thought about Bobby or offering a critical comment. Without fail, the immediate, instant reflection or recall of and about Bobby was always postive.
When I would tell someone that Bobby Blanchard was my partner, I was very proud becuase he was honorable, fair, ethical, never took advanatge of any situation. You knew that attaching your name to his was without risk or regret. If you mentioned his name and another person knew him, they would respond, “Bobby is a great guy” or “You are lucky to have him as a partner” or “You won’t find a better man.” Not once did I ever meet anyone who felt that Bobby had been anything other than a man of high integrity, clean and clear in his communication, fair in his dealings, and more than generous in the way he conducted business.
As partners, he would often say, “Jim, you shouldn’t do that for free or you deserve something for doing that.” He went to extraordinary lengths to make sure he never got the upper hand or was stepping on toes. He never, ever put his interests ahead of the group or ahead of anyone else. He made you want to be a good partner for him because you knew he was always looking for ways to be a better partner to you.
Someone else mentioned that Bobby was a “springboard” for others. What an incredible description. He was that for me – a friend, partner, consultant, co-venturer who was looking to always provide a springboard to others, me included. I will miss being able to simply bounce ideas off of him or seek his input when I am at a dead end on an issue.
As I came into the office yesterday, there was an e-mail from Bobby that he sent Friday that I didn’t get to read until Monday, obviously after I heard of the loss. It was typical Bobby – he was letting me know that he had a meeting on Monday with some guys in order to generate some interest in some property we owned together. In other words, he was always actively looking for ways to promote our common interests. He did not sit on his hands and wait for things to happen. He got stuff done.
The greatest tribute that I think can be paid any man is to reflect on how he deposited himself in others, wife, kids, family, friends, etc. Bobby Blanchard made a huge deposit in me and I will be grateful for the rest of my life. From the messages left here so far, it is obvious he left a deposit in many, many other people from all walks of life, from all parts of the country. That is an enviable legacy to leave – that you left such a big piece of yourself in others as you traveled through this life.
I will miss you my partner, my adviser, my friend.
Jim
March 20, 2007 at 4:45 pm
Just stepped off the plane from Bogota, Colombia where I was lecturing. I was checking my emails there and was just totally shocked and in tears. Bobby was a shining light of joy, humor (all his jokes were incredible and made my enjoyment of EO events so much more than I can express), and passion. Even though I did not know Bobby outside of EO, I knew enough about him, all of which was positive (and that is an understatement.) HIs dedication to EO and his presence in my life through EO will be sadly missed. Bobby, you have touched so many lives and I will miss you buddy!
March 20, 2007 at 5:14 pm
I first met Jan and Bobby about 14 years ago when I started doing freelance design work for Blanchard Design. We’ve remained friends over the years.
When I think about Bobby, as so many others have said, I think about a man who took advantage of life and enjoyed every minute of it, always smiling, wanting to know how you were.
There have been so many conversations with both Bobby and Jan about our travels. The question we always had for each other was, “Where are you going next?” It was such fun to hear and share stories of trips taken and plans for the next one.
Bobby and I also had many long conversations about martial arts. He always wanted to know how my training was going, especially when I was going for my black belt years ago. We enjoyed sharing the differences and similarities between our two styles. It was fun to hear what he was learning.
I also remember the strong coffee he made at the office. (luckily I like it that way). Also, the conversations about a new wine to try or new music. Bobby lived his life like we all should… wanting to learn more, understand more, love more, LIVE more.
Jan, I can’t imagine the pain and loss you feel right now. How hard it must be to lose your best friend, and as you said to me yesterday, to lose your travel partner. Maris and Zane, what a tragedy to lose your father so young. You were blessed with a father that adored and treasured you. You will be able to carry that with you forever. Dave and I pray for you all. God will give you a peace that you never thought possible. Through Him you will somehow get through.
I think of Bobby’s favorite place, Switzerland. He loved the beauty of the mountains, the incredible scenery. Bobby…I can only imagine the incredible beauty you are experiencing now. Somday, we’ll be enjoying it with you.
March 20, 2007 at 5:23 pm
After reading through all of these beautiful messages I am in tears. I was fortunate enough to have known Bobby through EO. He and I shared cocktails last month in Las Vegas (at the President’s retreat). Bobby was so funny and warm – he was somebody I was automatically drawn to. My thoughts and prayers are with his family, and all the positive vibes coming their way.
Many strong prayers are coming from CA.
March 20, 2007 at 5:25 pm
Bobby…what a generous guy. I got to know him first as a client and then as a friend. Bobby was always there to lend a helping hand and share a contact or recommendation. He always had plenty of advice and suggestions for everyone. He was not selfish with his knowledge and experience. I appreciate the many times he helped me with an introduction to a person, company, or concept. No matter how much time passed between our conversations, he always made you feel important and that he was truly interested in talking and sharing with you. That is a fantastic quality to have!
I feel lucky to have just recently visited with Bobby at a networking event (surprise, huh?). I was trying to get some face time with a few of the executives at a company with which I had interviewed that was hosting the event. In his smooth as silk way he facilitated a conversation with the CEO for me like he had known the man for years. He purposely made sure the conversation was easy and included me at all times for the benefit of this CEO. Typical Bobby. Networking his ass off and helping someone else all at the same time!!
Joan, Kendall, and I extend our deepest sympathies to Jan and the kids. We are praying for peace and clarity for you.
March 20, 2007 at 5:45 pm
For me, Bobby will serve a reminder of how each of us should live our lives – on our own terms. In my two years working for Bobby I don’t recall seeing any outside influences change his belief structure or how he lived.
The “value days” at BSAPR were special to Bobby and while they were a pain in the neck for me sometimes, I always respected how important they were to Bobby and what he was trying to accomplish. He was a man of ideals in action.
That is what is what I learned from Bobby and I won’t forget it.
Darren Drewitz
March 20, 2007 at 8:56 pm
I met Bobby many years ago in YEO. Although our paths didn’t cross
often, when they did I always felt as though I was with an old friend.
When I think of Bobby I see a smile, hear laughter and a funny story.
Bobby was the guy you thought would live forever. After reading these
messages and sharing stories with mutual friends during the past few days,
I realize that he IS the guy that will live forever … in our hearts, minds and memories. He’s the guy we will never forget.
March 20, 2007 at 9:10 pm
Please forgive me for the rambling you will read below. I have so many fond memories of Bobby that it is hard to find a place to start and string them all together in any sort of logical order.
Bobby was an incredibly special person and someone that I considered a wonderful friend. We shared a few special bonds in that we both had strong ties to Oklahoma, graduated with engineering degrees and for some insane reason ended up in the advertising and marketing industry as entrepreneurs.
When I think of Bobby there are so many thoughts that go through my head. He and I eating a $1.99 hamburger in Vegas at 5am. Drinking wine out on my patio. Running around in DC together until 4am. Bobby always being the first person I looked for when arriving at EO events. Bobby and I talking about all the fun we were going to have at the GLC in San Francisco this year. Bobby taking me under his wing and training me to take over the job as the EO Dallas president (a job he so loved and was so incredibly good at). Bobby and I spending eight hours on various different airplanes trying to get back from Vegas in time for my birthday party (I made it back in time and he got routed to Austin – I felt so incredibly bad that he couldn’t make it). Bobby and I recording silly video invites promoting various EO events. I could go on and on.
All of my fondest memories of EO are with Bobby. He was a true leader and a deeply caring man. I can assure you that if that would have been one of us that died in that plane, Bobby would have moved heaven and earth to ensure that our family and friends were completely taken care of and likeswise you can rest assured that we as a Chapter will do the same for him!
I love you Bobby and will miss you greatly.
Tim Storer
March 20, 2007 at 10:15 pm
Bobby – you left us so soon and we will miss you so much. You were such a great friend and one that blessed so many people with all that you did. You were a wonderful business leader, socially responsible and had a warmth in your hearth and voice that always clamed the waters. Your presence will always be felt and I would always search a room when I entered any function – hoping to see your smiling face. You will never be forgotten and will always be missed. God bless you and all that you have done for so many people – your memory will live with us all forever.
Your dear friend,
CJ
March 20, 2007 at 11:09 pm
God must have needed more laughter in heaven. Because we all know that is what Bobby delivered for all of us.
You have left an indelible image on my heart and life with your grace and humor.
God bless to your family.
Lois
March 21, 2007 at 12:13 am
“The richer the wheat, the more it bows”. I believe that Bobby’s rich spirit exemplified a realized man who continually gave of himself the best and made you forget the bad times. It only took a few minutes at the learning events to indulge in the stress relieving humor he brought. And during tragic times, Bobby went out of his way to comfort our families. Jan, today I would like to tell you that we will be forever grateful for the support you, Bobby and EO extended to our family. Who knows? Maybe Bobby and Oscar will get something organized up there! For now, I recon we will have to continue to live in his company through so many fond memories. Our hearts are with you.
March 21, 2007 at 9:13 am
Our thoughts and prayers go out to Bobby’s family and friends. He was the very best! I have used him as a role model many times to descirbe tenacity in selling. He finally got through no matter what!! The world is a little smaller without him here and our sadness for you is felt very deeply.
March 21, 2007 at 9:14 am
Jan and children-
The hole in mine, my wife’s, and in all of our hearts will always be there to some extent. Bobby’s void will be a tough one to fill. I truly believe though that with each day that passes Bobby would have wanted us to remember him for the happy times that we all have shared together; and to move on through our lives with continued happiness as a gift to him. He wouldn’t want it any other way.
I still don’t know why I hugged Bobby’s neck at 12:00 noon last Saturday and passed on the invitation to fly to Oklahoma with him and the others. I don’t know why it was him that is gone and not myself. It could have easily been the other way around. I do know though that he and I had a great day together on the helicopter flight and that he loved me; as I did him.
In his memory I intend to go this weekend on the trip to the ranch that he and I had planned to go on (he will be deeply missed). I intend to go this October to Rhome and Positano Italy just like he and I talked many times about. I intend to love and care for my wife, children, employees, and friends just like he would have done. I intend to live my life and love as hard as I can each and every day with a positive and upbeat attitude; just like Bobby did!!
I’ll miss you.
Jason
March 21, 2007 at 9:47 am
Jan, Maris, and Zane,
Bobby and I became friends through DRT. Over the past 4 years Bobby has been an angel of sorts. He touched my life dearly. Like the time he appeared at Children’s Medical Center during my daughter, Taylor’s surgery. She was 6 at the time. He was present there with my family and it meant so much to us. Or the time he went the mile to write a letter of recommendation for a job I was pursuing and landed. He was a friend that always had a listening ear. Most importantly, I always knew how important our friendship was because he would always end our conversations with your friendship means so much, thank you. I hope I will be a friend, mother, and spouse like Bobby was. I was truly blessed to have known him. May God bless you and your family.
Love,
Chelby
March 21, 2007 at 10:57 am
My Dear Bobby,
You taught me to write as a means of working through thoughts. Today I write to you to in hopes that it will provide some insight into the array of emotions I am feeling. I miss you so much. I find myself wanting to pick up the phone and call you and share about something that I experienced. I find myself wanting to send you a text message just to wish you a wonderful day. With you in my world there was nothing I couldn’t do – your encouragement, intelligence, support and kindness moved me to new levels. Knowing you has grown me as a person and I thank you. Thank you for your endless wonder and curiosity. Thank you for always sharing your thoughts and feelings and for caring. Thank you for your constant care for my well-being and success. Thank you for being my friend. I thought you would be here forever. I am so thankful I was able to spend your last evening with you on your birthday. I will cherish that day every day for the rest of my life. Your death has impacted me on so many levels – I have a deeper appreciation for my family, a stronger love for my mate and a deeper quest for inner enlightenment.
Until we meet again…
All my love to you,
Jennifer
March 21, 2007 at 11:10 am
Dearest Jan, Maris and Zane,
There are no words to express how truly sorry I am for the loss of such an amazing Husband and Father. Bobby loved each of you so very much. When he would speak of you his voice would change, his eyes would light up and that infamous Bobby smile would shine. Jan, Bobby would share about how supportive you were, how great of a job you had done raising the kids to be the incredible teenagers they are today and how much he appreciated you. Maris and Zane, your Dad loved to share about the things you were accomplishing in life and the way that you had impacted his world on a particular day. He was so proud of you both and so full of love for you, a love that will forever remain.
I am here for you,
Jennifer
March 21, 2007 at 11:14 am
I remember the day that I went over to Blanchard Shafer Advertising to recruit Bobby into the YEO/WEO Dallas Chapter. I spent several hours there unexpectedly because Bobby was so open to show me his business and talk advertising.
I remember him as always being the life of the party at the YEO/WEO social events with Jan. I think his favorite was the Valentine’s Day fashion show that Stacy Dorfman threw. You always knew when he arrived at an EO event, you just had to listen to his voice followed by the laughter and smiles.
We had a joke going that we kept running into each other in the men’s room of various restaurants in DFW, the last time being Champs in Las Colinas almost a year ago.
As funny and light-hearted as he was, he was also a great family man and a great leader, always stepping up to volunteer for YEO/WEO projects and to take a lead role.
I can hear his voice in my mind as I type this note of appreciation for knowing him. He will be dearly missed.
March 21, 2007 at 11:27 am
Jan,
You have been on my mind so much the last few days. I have been thinking back to our childhood friendship and fondly remembering the good times we had and what a good friend you were. After reading all the heart-felt comments about Bobby, I only wish I could have known you and Bobby as a family into our adult lives. Bobby sounded like a wonderful husband, father and friend. I would have counted it a blessing to have been his friend. Jan, you, Zane, Maris and your parents and entire family our in our thoughts and prayers and I will continue to remember you in my prayers for months to come. I know there are so many people there in Texas for you, but if you ever need someone here in Oklahoma, please get in touch with me.
We love you very much,
Liz Nicholson
March 21, 2007 at 11:36 am
my thoughts are scattered as are my words…really phrases:
the man wore some funny shoes
I’ll miss the big bear hugs
it was an argument at GLC of who was going to be the chaparone…him or me(either way was bad)
bellydancing
trying to out network each other and each ended up in one another’s article in DBJ
genuine genuine genuine caring and concern
Jan,
What a great friend
Maris & Zane
What a cool dad
Thoughts and prayers are with you,
Dean
March 21, 2007 at 11:40 am
Jan, Zane, and Maris,
May God’s healing hands be with you. My favorite memory of Bobby was going to the Van Halen concert in 1984 when I was 13 and he put me on his shoulders so I could see better; always putting others first the trait of a true leader. He was just a big teddy bear and we will miss him.
Love,
Jeff, Carla, Britton, Mackenzie, and Noah Cozort
March 21, 2007 at 11:44 am
Bobby was my nephew-in-law and beyond any doubt the best one of the bunch! He was really a good guy and fun to be with and visit with as he could be both funny and serious at the same time. I can well remember once when we were both at my older brothers house for a family reunion and he and I were sitting on the front porch telling stories and his grand mother by marriage came out and sat down with us. She was probably at that time in her mid 80’s and a smoker. She lit up a cigarette and I began to lecture her about the hazards of smoking and Bobby was agreeing with me when all of sudden she look at both of us in anger and said, ” I’ll out live both of you” at which Bobby looked at me and said, “OK, if you got em light em”. I got so tickled that I almost fell off the porch and his grandmother got so mad she got up from her seat and walk off.
There were of course other events over the years but in the end Bobby was a good guy and I only hope that can be said of me when I die. I will miss him!
March 21, 2007 at 11:55 am
I met Bobby years ago, and of all the people in the whole world who could make you smile, Bobby was the one. I have so many memories of Bobby, Jan and the kids at their house and in Ryan. We always had so much fun, and Bobby and Jan have always treated me like part of their family and for that I will always be grateful. Bobby and Jan have instilled all their values and unique qualities in Maris and Zane and anyone who has the pleasure of just sitting and talking to those kids, can see Bobby and Jan in them so much. We know he lives on in them forever. My heart and prayers are with Jan, Maris, Zane, Rick, Theresa and Chata and the entire family and community Bobby has touched, because I know just how much they loved Bobby, and just how much each of them are going to miss sitting down and talking to him over anything and everything.
March 21, 2007 at 12:27 pm
The only comforting thought – if there can be one – is the knowing that Bobby left such a legacy of love. It is witnessed by all the beautiful stories here. If that is what we are all here to do… he did it WELL. I am sure his light shines on even more brightly in eternity, but it will be deeply missed by those left behind.
With loving thoughts and prayers to Jan, Maris and Zane,
Michelle
March 21, 2007 at 1:06 pm
There is a Native American saying which says “They are not gone who live in the hearts of others.” It is obvious to me from reading all these comments that Bobby is in the hearts of others. Jan, Zane, and Maris, my heart aches for you. I am praying for God’s strength as you walk through this difficult time, that He will wrap His loving arms around you in your grief. He cares about you. Psalm 34:18 reads, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
My favorite memories of Bobby have to do with how he and Jan met (…ask her if you don’t know!) and of their wedding. Bobby and the groomsmen came out in Blues Brothers sunglasses. We all knew then we weren’t dealing with any ordinary petroleum engineer!
Bobby was so much fun. When I knew he was coming to our house I made the strongest coffee I could, then handed him some instant coffee to stir into it to get it somewhere near strong enough for him, so he could cut it with some heavy cream…none of that sissy half and half for him!!
I will always remember Bobby for his devotion to Jan and the kids and for his sharp, dry sense of humor and wit. He saw things from a perspective no one else did. Being around him was always joyful and uplifting.
With love and prayers for Jan, Zane, and Maris,
Aunt Raylene
March 21, 2007 at 1:57 pm
Hey there, just a quick note to give my condolences to the BSAPR family & friends. Ken and Bobby hired me for my first ‘real job’ back in the summer of ’99 as an AE intern. Good times. My summer spent at the agency laid the foundation for everything to come, shaping my future, pushing me ahead of the class. Thank you. These guys taught me many things, above all else, to trust in your peers while building a positive message for the common people.
Thanks for everything,
Clint Walker
March 21, 2007 at 3:45 pm
“Some people come into our lives and leave footprints on our hearts and we are never ever the same.” I never saw Bobby again after OU, but what an impact he made on me through the years. We shared so many good times at OU – parties, calculus, and my fondest ….the Crosby, Stills, and Nash Concert! I still think about his kindness often. He was my big brother and guardian angel. I knew he was special, but the sweet memories shared here confirm my beliefs. “Throughout our lives, we are sent precious souls, meant to share our journey, however brief or lasting their stay, they remind us why we are here.” To Bobby’s family and friends, you are in my thoughts and prayers.
March 21, 2007 at 4:02 pm
Bobby had an aura of enthusiasm about him that will never end. His high energy was always contagious and seemed to spread to everyone around him. I once accused him of having the excitement of a caffeinated gerbil!
Bobby was honestly one of the most positive people I have ever met. Constantly telling a funny story about Maris & Zane or grinning enthusiastically about a great new restaurant, wine or car. He kept us all smiling.
With Love,
Gary Logan
March 21, 2007 at 6:54 pm
Bobby taught me how to kick and punch.He was always very happy to see me when I came to the office. Sometimes he would stop for a minute and help me with things I needed help with. I loved him very much!
March 21, 2007 at 8:01 pm
Bobby was a bright light on the planet. Although I didnt spend nearly as much time with Bobby as I would have liked, I truly loved him. Always a big genuine smile, authenicity and big hugs. When I moved to Hawaii Bobby became of the people I truly missed back in Dallas. My heart goes out to Jan and the kids and I send you many blessings.
March 21, 2007 at 8:16 pm
Jan,
When Barry called to give me the news, I could not believe it, but as I sit here drinking a Tanquery and tonic and reading all the posts it is easy to see that Bobby had not changed, he still had the same effect on people today that he had on us at OU.
Been thinking about the stories and hi-jinks from OU days. Sitting on the beach drinking T&Ts and putting parking tickets on OUPD cars; Sunday night omelets; Denco’s for a darlin after the Hog Juice party; the foosball games; the nights spent at Othelo’s, The Mont and other bars and places around campus; the “wonderful” food at Cate, where we might eat with our hands or skip dinner and go someplace else; and some other stories you may or may not know about.
I really appreciated you and Bobby opening your house for Sunday lunch after the OU TX football game. I am sorry that I have not kept in touch over the past few years, but I want you, Maris, Zane and all the extended families to know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Joe
March 21, 2007 at 8:24 pm
My thoughts and prayers are with the family. May all of us be inspired by Bobby’s leadership.
March 21, 2007 at 9:17 pm
I admire Mr. Blanchard so much. He loved his family more than anyone and would do anything for them. I have so many memories with Maris and her dad. He helped Maris and I decorate their yard for Halloween, he would take us shopping, to the movies.. and those are just the small things. He would do anything to make Maris and Zane happy. He wasn’t the typical dad you were hesitant to talk to. I could talk to him like I was talking to one of my friends. He was deffinately one of the funniest man I have ever met. He was very loved and he will be much missed, though he is still with his family in their hearts. I want the Blanchards to know that they are in my family and I’s prayers.
Emily
March 21, 2007 at 10:08 pm
My dearest Jan,
I have so much to say, yet seem to be at a loss for the words.
We all met in 1984 and became family soon thereafter. Reluctantly, I moved away from you both in 1987; and the ensuing twenty years seems to have passed in the blink of an eye. The measure of our time apart has been chronicled with address changes and the addition of our children.
When I visited last, we immediately assumed that familiar and comfortable place where we had last left off; prattling on as if we were back in our late 20’s curing disease, solving social ill and disecting the merits of 2-stroke versus electric yard tools.
I will miss our Bobby more than you know.
March 22, 2007 at 10:00 am
I was new to Dallas, and Bobby had no idea who I was, except that I was passionate about getting to know the right people in the area. Bobby welcomed me into his office, and it took about 30 seconds to feel if I had known him my whole life. He spent 2 hours getting me up to speed on doing business in the DFW area, and connecting me with the right people. No BS just sraight honest conversation from a guy who was passionate about people. My time with him was short but it meant so much. My thoughts and prayers are with his family and friends
March 22, 2007 at 10:10 am
Few people in this world ever impact others the way Bobby Blanchard did. Rebel (first petroleum engineer I ever knew to wear an earring), comedian, philosopher, great engineer. More importantly, great friend, great husband, and great dad.
We worked together at Snyder Oil for what in retrospect was only a short time. The wild Engineering Department — Bobby doing Operations, me doing Reserves, Donna Ross trying to keep us all in line, and our fearless and patient leader, Tom Bass. It didn’t take long to see the “Bobby magic”. Taking off his earring so Tom wouldn’t get bent out of shape … telling Donna to “back off man, I’m a scientist” … our training seminar in Midland when we all brought back presents from the Petroleum Museum to Tom … Bobby and I threatening to paint our own crosswalk when Fort Worth’s finest had a one day campaign to write jaywalking tickest to those who dared cross the street from the parking garage to Burnett Plaza. Those and many more memories will always be cherished.
In the years since we’ve visited often but rarely found the time in our busy schedules to get together for lunch or just to remember “the old days”. This tragedy makes us all remember that tomorrow may never come, and you should spend every minute you can with family and friends. How hard these lessons are, and how often we never learn.
My heart and prayers go out to Jan and the twins. But I know you’ll have the support you’ll need because of the great legacy Bobby left with all of us — the warmth, the smile, the caring, the friends.
It’s ironic and sad (for us) that the two of the funniest, most caring people I’ve ever known — Bobby and minister/humorist Grady Nutt — were both taken from us far too soon by small plane crashes. I can only guess that things were getting a little too solemn up in Heaven and the Man decided that He needed to inject a little humor into the mix. Vaya con Diós, my friend.
Gary
March 22, 2007 at 11:44 am
I had the priviledge of working for Bobby as his receptionist and have very great memories of him. A part of my job description(that was not mentioned in my interview) was to LISTEN to Bobby. We’d often talk about the things in life that excited him the most like the next place him and Jan were going to travel to, how Zane and Maris were growing up so fast and how proud he was of them, his facination with different cultures and people groups of the world and how he was planning for yet another adventure in his journey of life.
Aside from his kindness and generosity, the thing I appreciated about him the most was his contagious enthusiam for life, how he was always about seeking greater depths of purpose and experiences. He always desired to live everyday to the fullest. This always inspired me to do the same.
I will miss our talks, his big smile and laughter.
Jan & kids, may God’s supernatural peace be upon you.
Much love.
March 22, 2007 at 6:53 pm
Just heard the news about Bobby and wanted to let you know Jan that even though its been years, the news hit me hard. I remember at OU when you first meet him. He had lots of curly hair back then and lots of muscles. We all thought he was very cute and very envious of you! We sure had some fun back then. I’m thrilled to know you all have stayed together all these years. My thoughts and prayers go to you and the kids.
March 22, 2007 at 9:11 pm
We are very saddened and sorry for your loss.
March 22, 2007 at 10:45 pm
As a fellow EO’er from Sydney Australia, I am deeply saddened to hear of Bobby’s death. I have never met Bobby and did not know him, but having participated in many international events, I know how small the EO community is and the loss of any member is a tragedy. Bobby’s friends and family will be in a special prayer I will say with my boys tonight. To his family, I would like to wish you my thoughts, prayers and condolences.
Frank
March 22, 2007 at 11:26 pm
Jan,
I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
Zane & Maris..My heart goes out to you. It’s hard to lose a parent. I will pray for both of you too. I know that God will give you the strength to get through this difficult time. Remember that you are never alone. So many people care and love you.
God bless all of you.
Love,
Anita & Adrianna Resmini
March 23, 2007 at 12:02 am
Hi Bobby,
Since hearing this tragic news on Sunday, I’ve found myself flipping back and forth between feeling very deep sadness for your loss, and deep gratitude for simply having had the opportunity to know you.
When I came to EO a couple of years ago, I can’t recall anyone going out of their way more than you did to make sure Beth & I both felt welcomed into the organization. That contagious grin, the twinkle in your eye, a strong handshake, and a slap on the back – I couldn’t help but be drawn right in!
Of course we had the Oklahoma connection going, with OU in common & both growing up in a small town. You’re one of the few people I’ve met who grew up in a smaller town than I did – and you had actually been to my small town somewhere along the way!
Before long, you invited me to lunch, where we talked data analysis over italian food – yikes. Next thing I know, you & Rob Enright are trying to convince Beth to let me put my name in the hat for the EO Board. And you did. And I did. And Tim did. And I’m so glad, because that gave me more opportunities to be around you – just wish I’d raised my hand sooner. Just wish we could’ve made it to GLC together.
The last couple of days have showed me even more about your journey to when I met you. And it is so cool. Your relationship with Jan. Your awesome kids, Zane & Maris. And I really enjoyed meeting your Mom & Rick. The memorial service was fantastic. I’ll bet you just loved it. To see how many people’s lives you touched along the way, and the lessons you left behind for the rest of us to build on.
Thank you again for the birthday card, and yes mine did come on the right date. I think someone switched those month & day numbers on purpose – don’t you? Thanks for reaching out to me. Thanks for inspiring me. Thanks for leaving me with a memory of your laughter & your smile.
I’ll miss you greatly.
Mark C. Winters
March 23, 2007 at 10:24 am
Today, Julie forwarded me this last email exchange between Bobby and I:
—–Original Message—–
From: Bobby Blanchard [mailto:bobbyb@bsapr.com]
Sent: Tuesday, February 13, 2007 9:22 AM
To: Richard Sapio; ‘Julie Nelson’
Subject: Re: awesome job
Rick
Knowing the value you place on EO your appreciation means a lot to me. My gratitude always goes to my predecessors as President for the unbelievable job they did in building the best chapter in the organization.
Bobby Blanchard
Blanchard Group Corporation
“All the happiness there is in the world comes from thinking about others,
and all the suffering comes from preoccupation with yourself.”
On 2/13/07 5:36 AM, “Richard Sapio” wrote:
Julie and Bobby,
Awesome job on the EO Roundup.
You guys are doing great things for our organization and I appreciate it more than you know.
My Best,
rick
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“Dare to dust off your dreams. Start to revere life again and
celebrate all of its wonders. Awaken yourself to the power of your
own mind to make things happen. Once you do this, the universe
will conspire with you to work magic in your life.”
From, “The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari,” page 49-50 by R. Sharma
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I searched for a quote that summed up how Bobby inspired others. Here it is:
by George Bernard Shaw
This is the true joy in life, the being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one; the being a force of nature instead of a feverish, selfish little clod of ailments and grievances complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy.
I am of the opinion that my life belongs to the whole community and as long as I live it is my privilege to do for it whatever I can.
I want to be thoroughly used up when I die, for the harder I work the more I live. I rejoice in life for its own sake. Life is no “Brief Candle” to me. It is a sort of splendid torch which I have got hold of for the moment and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before handing it on to future generations.
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I remember “battling” with Bobby on the way he led EO, but watched in complete awe how he grew as a leader by leaps and bounds week by week. I have never seen anyone more committed than he was to this organization and to people in general. From the first time I met him in the late 90s, until now, his acceleration was faster than anyone else.
Bobby makes me think of this quote on leadership:
“True leadership is….after a hard goal has been acheived, the followers will remark, ‘We have done it ourselves”.
Bobby was that type of leader.
Bobby, I will miss your infectious personality. I will miss your large, hard man boobs. I will miss your commitment to growth. I will miss your incredibly unique sense of humor. Most of all, I will miss how I felt whenever I saw you.
Ciao Bello, Bobby!
Love,
Rick Sapio
March 23, 2007 at 10:54 am
Bobby, I’m glad I was able to spend time with you at the EO Roundup in Austin, and then most recently at the Helicopter ride on Saturday morning. I will treasure the memory of your handshakes, back slaps, and that friendly smile. Hearing all of the tributes at your memorial, it was so evident that you epitomized the quest of really living life well.
My 5 yr old son Dylan asked me last night why I was sad. I told him that a friend of mine had an accident and died, but that he was now helping God keep an eye on all of us. Seeming satisfied with my answer, my son replied “wow that’s pretty cool he is helping God”. Zane & Maris, your dad has left you an amazing legacy, and I know he will always keep an eye on you during your journeys of life.
March 23, 2007 at 12:26 pm
Bobby, your friends and family did you right with the memorial . . . both a testament to your full life and a lesson for the rest of us to do something more with ours. You LIVED 50 years! Jan, you are the only person on this planet that could have possibly deserved Bobby, and vice versa no doubt. I know you and your great kids will eventually be fine with such precious memories.
Hugs,
Patti
March 24, 2007 at 11:11 pm
Gee, I thought I was Bobby’s best friend but after reading all these blog entries I am realizing that everyone that befriended this guy probably thought the same thing. Since I am left scratching my wig, I suppose I can share the title of best friend with the other 100+ of you that might be confused about this as well.
I have known Bobby for the past 5 years and have been fortunate to build a fast & strong friendship over these short years. In working with Bobby as he served as the 2006/07 Chapter President of the Dallas Entrepreneurs’ Organization (EO) we have talked via phone almost daily this past year – the average call would be at least an hour long. We would spend 25% of our time talking about the organization and 75% of our time talking about the good stuff – music, gossip, platinum grillz opposed to gold grillz, where we wanted to travel next, our kids and spouses, clowns, little people, etc. We reminisced about all of our shenanigans and dreamed up what we could do next. We were an excellent team of good intentions that always included fun for all.
I have named this almost daily ritual my “Bobby Call”. The definition of a “Bobby Call” is the reverse of a “Booty Call”. The difference is that this call was placed by one of us after 9AM instead of after 9PM and for a different type of satisfaction.
On the days I did not get my “Bobby Call” I would most likely be meeting my boy in Dallas for lunch at a venue that provided an excellent patio and stellar people watching. We would argue over who would get the seat that faced the action making sure we did not miss anything passing by. Once again talking 25% of the time about EO and 75% of the time chatting it up about any random subject that promoted laughter.
On Friday the 16th of March I threw together a last minute birthday dinner for Bobby with my husband and 4 other friends. In getting joy out of creating experiences for others I picked a table that was fairly close to the door and placed Bobby at the end of the table where he would have a great view of the action. After all, it was his birthday so I gave in and let him have the good seat. It was a great evening full of sidesplitting laughter. Bobby reassured us how much we all meant to him and how much he loved us all.
I was able to see Bobby again in the morning on Saturday the 17th of March for our long anticipated helicopter ride around DFW with the EO family. He informed me that he had consumed too much wine the evening prior and that he felt as if his cat slept in his mouth. He then switched from funny to serious as he could do so well and said, “I had the best birthday last night, you are such a good friend to me, I love you so much, thank you” – I was able to say back to him, “It was my pleasure, I love you too” and kissed his big ole forehead. I would not ever dream that this was going to be good-bye in the flesh however I am so satisfied that I was able to feel comfortable enough in our friendship to not hold back how I really felt about him nor he with me – he allowed me to be that way with him as he did with so many others.
This was a once in a lifetime opportunity – to say goodbye to someone I care for and not feel like I should have said more on our last encounter – just a beautiful feeling.
Listen up – Don’t wait to get some action, make a “Bobby Call” today or simply make plans to break bread with the ones that make you feel good. Share the good seat and always depart from friends and family making sure you let them know how much they mean to you.
Peace Out Bobby B. (with a double tapped fist to my heart followed by the international sign for peace) – you will always be my favorite gangster!
Jules
March 25, 2007 at 1:05 pm
Jan, Maris, and Zane
I feel so lucky to have met Bobby. He made me laugh the minute I was introduced to him. Bobby is one of those people in the world who touch lives so deeply, he truly is one of a kind. Quick witted and serious at the same time. He could say something that I would crack up to and he would barely smile.
I thank you Jan and Bobby for sharing all the wonderful fun places here in our metroplex. You guys made me like Texas just a little bit more.
Maris and Zane you guys keep on keeping on with the things you love that I’m sure made your Dad so proud. He will always be your guardian angel helping you to follow your heart.
Jan you Maris and Zane will always be in my thoughts and prayers. My heart hurts for you. Remember time never heals the pain but it sure can ease it a bit.
Debbie
March 26, 2007 at 12:48 pm
My name is Dean Lindal, Global Vice President Membership for The Entrepreneurs’ Organization. I have been involved with EO for nearly 16 years having worked with countless member leaders around the globe.
I met Bobby a couple of times and most recently 3 weeks ago myself, Dan Glisky an EO member from Detroit and the Global Accelerator Chair were on a what Dan and I termed an awesome conference call to discuss the Accelerator program in Dallas.
Dan and I debriefed after this call and said “Wow…this guy is sharp!” Dallas Accelerator is going to rock with the backing of the President of Dallas and the champions he hand-picked!
Bobby shared his passion and remarking on a new phase in his life where he was finding fun in helping and mentoring early stage entrepreneurs which is what the Accelerator program was all about.
This guy was firing on all cylinders! and brought an incredible energy to the program.
My prayers are with the family.
“The steadfast love of the lord never ceases. His mercies never come to an end. They are new every morning, new every morning, great is they faithfullness oh Lord, great is the faithfullness”
March 27, 2007 at 6:59 pm
I just recently saw Bobby again for the first time in almost 5 years. Time stood still. Bobby’s spirit filled the room again. All of the responses are a true testament to his amazing life. I only wish I had the chance to know him as well as so many others did. His spirit and innovation lives on every life that he touched.
Kevin Pailet
March 28, 2007 at 7:23 am
My name is Mark Heger and I was Bobby’s roommate during our Junior and Senior years at the University of Oklahoma. Those years are ones that I look back on often and smile at how amazed I am that any of us made it through school. It’s ironic but I had built some new shelves last week in a basement storage room and was storing some things away in boxes when I came across photos from college. I mentioned to my wife that we needed to get to Dallas sometime so that she could meet my old roommate and his family because it had been 5 years since we’d been able to get together.
I came to Oklahoma from Michigan because they had a respected architectural school and I’d always been a Sooner fan. I didn’t know a soul within 500 miles when I walked in the door at Evans House in Cate Center on the O.U campus on an August afternoon in 1978. I was wondering if I’d made the right choice to go to college so far from home when the first person that introduced themselves was this crazy guy named Bobby Blanchard. With Bobby introducing us to every person that walked in the door I had a 100 new friends before the day was over….Barry Bruster, Joe Groves, Tim Ballard, Barry Canavan, Joe Oliver, Deb Ferrell and a long list of others.
Hanging out with Bobby was just a great time. There were the toga parties, Texas/O.U. Streakers Night, the infamous Evans House Daiquiri Parties, and the time we had a Sangria party with Sangria that fermented for 2 weeks in a filthy plastic garbage can. Bobby certainly loved people and people loved Bobby.
I will miss Bobby but I know that he is in a great place. He’s certainly going to keep a smile on God’s face with his crazy antics. I look forward to seeing him again some day.
Mark Heger
Norton Shores, MI
Oklahomasooner81@comcast.net
April 3, 2007 at 4:01 pm
The only time I really spent with Bobby was at parties that the agency would have every now and then. The first time I met him was electric and he just had a way of capturing you. He will be missed by many.
God bless and our prayers got out to his family,
Johnny Ahrens
May 1, 2007 at 9:28 pm
I’ve started and stopped this at least 10 times. In some ways, I wanted to be last to write – figuring most people would have stopped looking at the site. These thoughts are so private, so personal – they’re for you, Jan and me. Also knowing that what I write – is in some ways my last statement about all this. I don’t think I’m ready for that chapter to end. Somehow not writing left it open – not final. But I know it is.
It’s past 9 on a Tuesday night and we have a pitch on Thursday and another one right behind that one a few days later. I’m brain locked – as I’ve been so many times. I can’t get the thoughts out of my head the way I want to. The way I need to in order for us to win this pitch. The more I think, the farther the thoughts run.
That paints so vividly where the magic between Bobby and I was found. Nights like these, when all the employees had gone home – he and I – at the office talking, laughing, thinking, laughing some more, countless white papers stuck all over the walls with my scribbling all over them – and somehow Bobby could make heads and tails of what I was searching for. THE thought. THE big idea. He would pick up the scent of the trail and he’d ask questions – having an inkling of where I was trying to go. Poking and prodding drawing more out of me. And then suddenly it would come like a flood. Our greatest work. Creative and Different. Setting us apart from the agencies we were competing against. We were an even better team than I realized.
I’ll miss most making each other better.
In so many ways, we were closest friends – yet virtually our entire relationship took place at work. And that was perfect – for us. We didn’t need football games on weekends and cookouts with the wives and kids – our relatiohship was different in that way. It feels strange – telling this to others – so I’m going to start telling it to you. Don’t know if you still get email or not – but what the heck.
As I sit listening to the music CD we put together for your service, it makes me melancholy. Wishing that you and I were doing this together. Having one of the hundreds of deep conversations we had about everything – everything. I trusted you implicitly. I knew I could tell you anything and not be judged. I knew you knew you could count on me. Unspoken but written in blood. It’s so much harder than I ever imagined.
One last laugh. One last hug. One last “see you Monday”. I wish.
I miss you friend.
May 2, 2007 at 8:35 pm
That was really heartfelt and beautiful…thank you for sharing your heart. Take care of each other…I’ve thought of all of you all very often over the years since Eric and I left Dallas and consider my time at BSA and knowing you guys some of the best years of my life. God bless you all and watch over you. Love, Karen
May 14, 2007 at 9:22 pm
I went to OU in the early 80’s and lived in the same dorm hallway as Jan. I am so sorry for your loss, Jan and pray for your comfort.
May 17, 2007 at 5:26 pm
I met Bobby very briefly at BSA. I sat in his office for about an hour and we talked about travel, books, culture, adventure and family. Despite the brevity of our relationship, he really had an impact on me. His smile and spirit were infectious and I left his office feeling like I made a new friend. I can tell he was precious to many people. God bless his family and friends, I will keep you in my prayers. Diana
July 1, 2007 at 4:47 pm
As I sit here at work on Sunday afternoon, July 1st, looking at a picture of Bobby that I have on my credenza, I would like to share with all of you a note that I drafted about my last conversation with my brother. Before I do that, I would like to say a couple of things….
to Ken Schaefer….words cannot describe how much it meant to me to be with you down at Ardmore, OK on that night after the crash. You will always be my brother.
to the Dallas EO members….I have something kinda funny to tell you. Bobby and I talked maybe once every three or four weeks. When he was busy doing something that he loved, it would be a little longer in between calls. Didn’t concern me any. We are brothers. And not always too much new stuff to say to each other. Since he began to submerge himself into the EO world, the calls to me were few and far between. Thanks for giving my brother a world that he loved. Here’s my note……
As I was waiting on a friend to arrive for an evening out last Friday, I decided to call Bobby and wish him a happy birthday. Upon answering the phone, I let loose with an elongated, ugly chorus of Happy Birthday at the top of my lungs. Being a concerned brother with no intentions of bruising my ego, he said “Wow, thanks”!! Bobby told me that he was en route to a dinner party with friends in Dallas that evening. As we both began to share our special upcoming evening events, I could tell that he was just as curious and happy to hear my plans as well as I was enjoying listening to his.
And as we do in most conversations, Bobby and I touched on certain subjects that have always been our common bond such as exercising and whether it helps us look any younger or at least keeps our age in check, if possible.
Then, we began to talk of life’s milestones such as turning 30 and now 50. Bobby said that he remembered being in a gym somewhere out of state working out on the day that he turned 30 and was thinking how OLD that seemed at the time. He said that he was amazed now that his weightlifting was more productive than ever. He told me about re-entering martial arts lately and how his body hasn’t felt this abused in some time. As we were talking proud of our dedication, Bobby said that it is so necessary now more than ever in our lives because with turning 50 and counting, he has seen too many people go unexpectedly due to neglect.
Then, we turned to our careers in the conversation. I knew that due to time restraints, Bobby and I would not be too detailed in talking on this subject, but we always took the time to update each other. Over the past year, I knew that Bobby had made significant decisions in his career that would lead him down a different path than he had ever journeyed. And on Friday night, on the last time that I was to talk with him, for the first time in all of our recent conversations, Bobby put it all together for me on how this transition was working. He said, “ I spent a great deal of the time in my career up to recent years concentrating only on me and my family and the climb up the ladder of success.” But then he said, “None of that can even compare to the joy that I now receive helping other people further their careers.”
As we brought our conversation to a close, I told him that I loved him and he said that he loved me, too. We both clicked off our cellphones and began our fun evenings. Separate, but always together.
Bobby, I will always love you, miss you, quote you, dream of you, see you and be with you.
Your brother and friend.
Rick
July 7, 2007 at 8:33 am
Life is too precious to be picky-
Too brief to be bitter-
Too beautiful to be bored-
And absolutely too wonderful to waste!
I didn’t think there would ever be a time that I could write anything. However, I am still jet lagged and it’s early in the morning. The kids and I are back from Switzerland where we took Bobby’s ashes to his favorite place Bettmeralp, Switzerland. http://www.bettmeralpbahnen.ch/e/live/bettmeralp_l.html. This trip was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. As soon as we got there we were tired from the travel, but our room wasn’t ready. We took a trip on a funicular to the top of a mountain in Interlaken. We were hungry and tired and couldn’t find a place to sit outside. Bobby would always want to sit outside. We had to sit inside and as the three of us sat there trying to make out the menu in German, we silently cried. And I thought, “What am I doing here”! I must have been crazy to think that I could do this alone. This is our “new normal”. Making plans, walking, talking, and dreaming, all without him. Being in a foreign country you feel isolated to begin with. We felt isolated as three instead of four. Our buffer, comedian, uplifter and tour guide was gone. These were the trips he and I shared together every summer for 20 plus years. I felt like my heart was going to explode several times while I was there. My heart ached for myself, and ached for my kids. But as always, God carried us through it. We had the incredible blessing of Becca Teaster, a forum mate and friend who joined us at the end of the trip. After leaving Bettmeralp we had 4 days left and she literally saved the end of the trip for all of us. She stepped up to the plate and took over having conversations with the kids, encouraging them about our up coming move to Tulsa, asked the questions that needed to be asked and loved each of us unconditionally. I believe, without a shadow of a doubt, that God has his hand on the kids and me each step of the way. It’s chilling to see how he has put in front of me the right person, the right conversations, the right events so that I am able to wake up each morning and put one foot in front of the other and climb this mountain I am staring up at.
Bobby’s death will always leave a hole in my heart that can never be filled. My days are harder now, because I am no longer numb. I have to face being alone. Reality starts to hit me in little segments each day. I cry a lot more now. They call them “grief bursts”. I know I have to go through these and not let them build up. I am embracing what I’ve lost.
Bobby cared a lot about everyone in a very deep way. I am constantly amazed at the quality of friends he and I have. True friends. Even my family in Tulsa is amazed. It’s much better to give than to receive. And the more you give, the more God gives you. Our friends are a testament to all the giving Bobby gave. Bobby didn’t do what he did without thought and purpose. He had a plan. Being an engineer by nature he made spreadsheets and lists. He had a list with names, numbers and websites on things to do with the four of us for one day, two days, three days, or a four-day weekend. He had a spreadsheet on his goals. Spend time with Zane, spend time with Maris, acts of kindness, workout, Martial Arts, call Mom, Sister, Brother, send out EO birthday cards, EO board to-do’s and work related goals. He would check them off when he had done one of these things on his list and he could keep up with whether he was doing a good job or needed to improve in certain areas. A very purposeful life. He wrote letters to his parents, to the kids and one to me (after going to a Steven Covey seminar). Priceless words! He had answered a questionnaire that his one of his coaches had given him about his childhood. It was a wonderful gift I gave his mother. She knew, but the letter and questionnaire confirmed he had two great caring parents that gave him a remarkable childhood and great foundation for life. After being together 29 years you take for granted what you have. You question if you are still in love as you once were. We were looking forward to growing old together. And that was happening too fast. We had plans to move to Dallas when the kids graduated from High School and following them to their colleges. Our marriage at the time he died, was the best it had ever been. I was in Tulsa for my parents 50th Wedding Anniversary with the kids. It was a quiet, low-key event and Bobby didn’t want to miss the EO event on Sat. However, we talked on the phone every day. Sometimes calling twice a day. I was the last one to talk to him when he was driving to Love field for the flight. We laughed about all the exciting events he had for his 50th and that he would remember it forever. He was on such a high from all his friends making it special.
Now that he’s gone I realize what an excellent teacher he was to me. I am smarter and calmer because of him. He was a gentle person who always knew what to say. He read every day and meditated. And was always seeking to know and understand God. He stopped to take time for himself and that gave him the strength to take care of others. I pray that the Zane, Maris and I can take his legacy and springboard into a great life full of wonderful memories and knowledge that he gave to each of us.
I want to say THANK YOU to everyone for their generous donations, acts of kindness, shoulders to cry on, notes, phone messages, driving lessons for my kids, outings for my kids, notes on this blog, coming to Bobby’s visitation, his services and The Bobby Blanchard Memorial Golf Tournament. May God continue to bless the Phillips, Burkes, Carters, the EO organization, Bobby’s forum group, the Blanchard family, the Cozort family, Zane and Maris’ school and Church friends, North Davis and my wonderful forum group.
With the love of Christ, Jan Blanchard
July 14, 2007 at 2:06 am
DEAR JAN,
I JUST WANTED YOU TO KNOW HOW MUCH I ENJOYED GOING TO LUNCH WITH YOU THIS PAST WEEK AT PICCOLO MONDO. IT WAS SPECIAL TO LISTEN TO YOUR RECENT JOURNEY AND YOUR FEELINGS AND YOUR CONCERNS RE THE CHILDREN “ARE YOU DOING THE RIGHT THING MOVING ESPECIALLY ZANE, AWAY FROM HIS FRIENDS” OF COURSE YOU ARE ON THE RIGHT TRACK AS WE TALKED, WE BOTH KNOW OUR GOD WHO LOVES YOU ALL SO MUCH, IS IN CHARGE AND TAKING YOU ALONG WHERE HE THINKS YOU ALL NEED TO BE. WE WILL MISS YOU VERY MUCH FOR YOU ARE A WONDERFUL LADY. LOVE YOU, PEG
August 23, 2007 at 10:06 pm
Dear Jan, I’m so sorry I’m just now finding out about Bobby’s tragic death. Words cannot express how much my heart aches for you and your family. I can honestly say that you and Bobby were like no other couple I’ve ever met in my life! How you lived, loved and WORKED together is a testament to the immense amount of respect, honor and love that you had for each other, and will always have for each other. I met you all about 10 years ago when you volunteered to help me design the invitations and promote a charity event that I was spearheading. You graciously donated your time and talent to help me and the charity, even though I’m sure we were one of the many worthy causes begging for your pro bono help. Instantly, we were friends. You both have such magnetic personalities, and you glowed in each other’s presence. Your love for each other was a rare, beautiful thing to witness for all who knew you, I’m sure. Was there anyone that ever met Bobby and wasn’t blown away by his infectious laugh, beaming smile and gentle “teddy bear” demeanor? With all of his muscles and potential to be a tough guy, he sure did set the standard for what a gentleman, husband, father, brother, son, and friend should be, and he’ll be greatly missed! Thank you for the opportunity to reflect on what life, love and relationships are truly about- precious moments stolen from a ticking clock who’s alarm could ring at any minute, signaling the end of this journey called life! God bless!
November 24, 2007 at 9:44 pm
It is November 24, 2007 and I can’t help but think of Bobby, Jan and the kids. I had many Thanksgivings at their house. I was always grateful that I always had an open invitation.
I just wanted to share how special of a person he truly was. I think often about what an impact he made in my life.
When I began working for Bobby, I didn’t have a college education, I was going through a divorce and working really hard at raising a daughter on my own. During my employment with BSA, I started college then quit because the stress was getting to me. Working a full-time job, going to school at night and raising a child as a single mom was extremely hard at the time.
Time went by and I still didn’t enroll back in school but Bobby always had encouraging, supportive words for me. He admired how strong I was. He always told me that I was a great Mother and was such a positive influence on me.
I have to take a moment to thank Bobby for his positive words, unconditional support and love that he and Jan extended to me and Lisi.
I have to say THANK YOU to Bobby because he always told me that I could do anything I wanted and he believed in me.
THANK YOU BOBBY….
for encouraging me to complete my bachelor…which I did!!!! My Bachelor Degree in Business Administration with a minor in Finance.
for always telling me that I am a great Mother. My daughter graduated a year early from high school and started college this past semester and now I am a proud parent again. I have a son. Christian Isaiah (10 months old).
for teaching me to be patient and that communication is extremely important.
for teaching me that even though a marriage is not always perfect, you stick together and make it work. Your love for Jan and the kids was extremely special.
Jan – Thank you for everything and may God always bless you, Maris and Zane.
Frances